How do i stop my big brother from controlling my life?

I dont feel that i can do anything with out my brother checking up on me (i am 13 and my brother is 25) even silly things like making sure i have eaten when i am at school ( boarding school) he will ring me i the evening to make sure that i have eaten proparley (i went through a period of not eating much and lost a lot of weight, but it was a year ago,) i normally ignore his phone calls and don't pick them up which makes him really angry, which then makes me get into trouble. But i just feel that he doesn't need to control my whole life i need to make mistaks on my own and sort them out rather than him protecting me from everything. He also thinks i am imcapable of doing anything for my self like at the moment he is checking my trunk to go back to school and making sure that i have all the right uniform and other things like my riding hat, body protecter, boots, chaps but i have already chrecked it alll and i have everything, why won't he just take my word for it?

How do i stop my big brother from controlling my life?
first, you just have tell him that you are starting to annoy me and you should give me more privacy.








If that does not work you just have to be rude.





leave me alone and stop controling my life and get your own.





Put curse words in there, but I am not because I do not want to be reported.
Reply:I think you need to sit your brother down and tell him how you feel. Tell him you know he is only thinking off you but he needs to back off a bit. Tell him you made a mistake last year and you paid for it, but, you don't want him phoning you every night to make sure you have eaten. Make him listen to you and make sure at the end of it he understands how you feel. Good Luck.
Reply:Hai





First you understand your brouthers thoughts possitively.. dont hate his activity. you love him. you can change his commanding and demanding nature with your love and soft nature and patience only. This not gives immediate result. But gives 100% possitive result in some more days/years may be.


Every day you pray God to fill his full of love in your broughters hart. God can do. May be there is a bad story behind of each hated person. You must understand his stitution. then act positively. dont irritate.


With best wishes.





Lakshmi
Reply:He only cares about you. You should feel lucky to have such a caring older brother. Some people have siblings that beat them up and do bad things. Your brother sounds really great


just have a talk with him.
Reply:Punch him
Reply:Can you appeal to your parents? Where are they in all of this? Your brother should be living his own life at this point and NOT worrying about yours. At 25, I would hope he has a life because he sounds a little weird.
Reply:Tell him to go to hell.
Reply:Oh hun. He obviously, in his own warped BB way just loves you beyond words.





BB's are so freakin'....UGH!! Aren't they?


If you feel like you can speak to him, then do. If you can't then simply distance yourself emotionally from him. Don't make him frustrated by simply being a b***h, (I tried that with my brother and it made him even more angry!) Just be emotionally... monotone...do you know what I mean?





He is obviously fiercely protective of you, maybe mum and dad have put the hard word on him to do this?





Try and see it a little from his perspective, I know that you are growing into an independant woman, but to him, you are still his little, tiny baby sister. You always will be. There will come a time when he will realise, on his own that you just arn't that little girl anymore, he also must realise that he is pushing you further and further away by holding you so close.





Us little sisters are so lucky to have those big, ugly buttheads we call brothers. My brother's still a complete butthead. Wouldn't have him any other way though. I hope you know this someday.





Best of luck with him ;)



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