How do i stop my big brother try to control everything single thing i do?

I dont feel that i can do anything with out my brother checking up on me (i am 13 and my brother is 25) even silly things like making sure i have eaten when i am at school ( boarding school) he will ring me i the evening to make sure that i have eaten proparley (i went through a period of not eating much and lost a lot of weight, but it was a year ago,) i normally ignore his phone calls and don't pick them up which makes him really angry, which then makes me get into trouble. But i just feel that he doesn't need to control my whole life i need to make mistaks on my own and sort them out rather than him protecting me from everything. He also thinks i am imcapable of doing anything for my self like at the moment he is checking my trunk to go back to school and making sure that i have all the right uniform and other things like my riding hat, body protecter, boots, chaps but i have already checked it alll and i have everything, why won't he just take my word for it?

How do i stop my big brother try to control everything single thing i do?
hes your big brother and he cares for you a lot thats how most brothers are to their little sisters not much you can really do about it
Reply:Tell him he should trust you on some things...at least the fact that you can pack your own trunk. Even if you forgot something...it won't be the end of the world.





Tell him you love his concern...but sometimes he smothers you. Ask him why he feels he need to check every little thing? Tell him how you really feel.
Reply:your brother loves you very much and wants you tobe perfect and safe.you are lucky your brother is mike that because nowadays brothers are jerks.
Reply:because he loves you so very much. maybe you should sit down with him and tell him what you wrote here. Still the truth is, that he is 25 and your 13 and even though you don't realize, he's seen more of life than you, and you could probably benefit from his advice %26amp; his friendship
Reply:OMG i would have loved a big brother to look after me like that - he cares and he loves you !!!!


You are only 13 - yes you have to make your own mistakes - but there is plenty of time to do that - when you are older.


You could talk to him and explain how you are feeling - he probably feels he has a responsibility to look after you as your parents are away.


Maybe you could try saying thank you to him now and again.
Reply:He is just really worried about you. You should be happy I have an older brother that hates me. I starved myself for almost 2 months and he didnt even say anything he doesnt worry about me at all so just be happy you have a brother that just wants the best for you
Reply:Sounds like you have a great brother to me. My brother wouldn't even buy me a Birthday/Christmas present unless my mum bought it and wrote his name on the card!! He's just being over protective coz he loves you. Don't look at it as being anything else. He's not trying to annoy you or anything. Tell him to scale it down a bit, and tell him not to worry about you so much, if you need him you'll call, and promise him. Then call him to ask his advice on something, show him you will do it like you said. Show him he can trust you. And if he starts being like that again, simply tell him that he's doing it again. Maybe talk to your parents and get them to tell him not to call so often. It's hard to give advice about something you haven't had problems with 1st hand. One day you'll be all grown up and he'll have even more to worry about!! HA HA HA!!



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